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How to Fill Out a Reply Card



The daunting question when you receive a reply card—how do I fill it out? Here is the answer in a few simple parts:


Write the names from the envelope.

Sounds simple, right?  Tell the host who is responding. You are responding as one of these three ways, which is dictated by
to whom specifically your invitation envelope was addressed.

In this case write your name.
Begin with your social title if the invitation is addressed formally.

In this case write your name and the name of your guest. That's right, you have to commit.
Your name goes first, preceded by your social title if the invitation is addressed formally. Your Plus One's name goes second, following the same protocol.

Make sure you don't assume—are the kids on invited on the invitation envelope?
Respond with the the adults and their titles, then the children oldest to youngest.
Use by your social title if the invitation is addressed formally.


What's your title?

Here's the quick guide to the most common social titles. These are NOT the same as professional titles. Clergy, military, and medical doctors
use the titles from their respective fields. Lawyers and Ph.D. advanced degrees folks—this is not the place for your title, you are Mr., Ms., Mrs., or Miss.

According to Emily Post, the title Master can be used on formal correspondence to young boys until age eight.
The young man becomes "Mr." when he turns eighteen. During the years between, no title is needed.
Girls are referred to as Miss until they are married or choose to become Ms.


Write a sentence.

Typically, this is thanking the host, sending well wishes for the couple, or something of that nature. If you cannot attend, you may write
the shortest, most concise phrase as to why—but this is not the place for a lengthy explanation. See some examples below for inspiration.


No X-ing or Checking!

That's correct—there is no place for a check mark or an 'X' on a reply card.
The correct way to respond is to write the number of guests in the household attending or declining next to the applicable option.

If entrees are listed, use initials to indicate which guest prefers which dish.

Here, you go! All filled out for direction—and some inspiration!

And don't forget, we have the etiquette-text hotline for you.